Those who are pushed away by life are destined to be eliminaTime:2019-10-21 | Release:Inspirational | Category:Insights on life
Those who are pushed away by life are destined to be eliminated
A few days ago, I took time to accompany my mother to attend her class reunion. It was also out of curiosity. I want to know what kind of difference will happen in the same school after 20 years.
After meeting, I found that everyone’s life is really different.
Aunt Chen is the same table of my mother, who is a master of beauty and strict with self-discipline. Even now half a hundred years old, I have always insisted on sports, and my face looks younger than my peers.
Uncle Dacheng used to like foreign languages very much. He read English in the tape every day. At the time of graduation, he just caught up with the dividend period of the foreign trade industry. After a few years of translation, he now works as a team owner.
Aunt Reiko didn't like to brain when she was young. She liked to play mahjong after marriage. She always kept the work of "iron rice bowl" and was later laid off. She was a housewife at home.
Uncle Amin’s drink was intemperate after work, and now he has an alcoholic liver and a face.
On the way home, my mother smiled and said: "You see that everyone's current state of life has emerged from their faces."
This can not help but raise my doubts: In the 20 years after graduation, what is it that makes people win thousands of miles? What is it that makes people lose the long run of this life?
During the conversation, I learned that my aunt and uncle, who are now living in a moisturizing life, have always been self-disciplined in hard mode. It is precisely because they are self-disciplined and self-disciplined that they can open up new paths and ushered in an enviable life in the later stage.
I once read a book, "The Road to Less People," which reads: Life is, in a sense, a path of self-cultivation, and those who are truly enviable have a very important quality - Self-discipline.
The three principles of self-discipline mentioned in the book have always benefited me in my life and work.
One of the principles is to postpone satisfaction.
Some time ago at work, I encountered a bottleneck. I always habitually delay the work, until I can't help it, I just barely submit the work task before the deadline.
I recalled my usual work habits, always in the first hour of work, to complete the easy and favorite work, and in the rest of the time, always try to avoid the thorns.
Later, I changed my strategy and prioritized the troublesome errands in the first hour of work. So, the rest of the time, other work will become relatively easy.
It turns out that this strategy is effective. The pain of an hour plus the happiness of seven hours is of course stronger than the pain of seven hours plus one hour. This is called postponing satisfaction, not coveting temporary comfort, and resetting the order of happiness and pain in life.
It is the only viable way to face problems, feel pain, then solve problems and enjoy the greatest happiness.
Principle two, take responsibility.
At the coffee shop on the weekend, I accidentally heard two girls spit. A girl complained about her department's boss - the customer complained in the morning, the big leader had to blame, and it was clearly the fault of his boss's work, but she became a scapegoat. Another girl has been persuading her not to be angry with people who are not worthy, to calm her up, and finally to persuade her not to pursue it after she goes back.
When you encounter something, you will push the responsibility to other people, and you will hang up high. You must have such friends or colleagues around you.
A writer once said: You can't solve the problem, then you will become a problem. Face the problem, come forward, or they will always exist.
The difficulty with taking responsibility for personal actions is that it can bring pain, and we want to try to avoid this pain. At the moment of shirking responsibility, you may feel comfortable and happy, but your mind is not mature enough and often becomes a burden for the collective and others.
We always feel that we cannot change the status quo, so we have self-doubt. In fact, our ability is far stronger than we think, and we are fully capable of taking responsibility for all our choices and lives.
The third principle is to maintain balance.
Self-discipline is a hard and complicated job, and you need to have enough courage and judgment. The highest principle of maintaining balance is to give up.
When I was 9 years old, I just learned to ride a bicycle and rode out to play all day. There is a slope near my home and there is a sharp turn on the downhill. One morning, I rode down the slope, and the feeling of running awkwardly gave me great happiness.
But if you hold down the brakes at that time and slow down the speed, that kind of happiness will definitely be greatly reduced. So, I rode the car to the corner below and didn't slow down. As a result, after a few seconds, I was thrown a few meters away, lying in the grass with four forks, a lot of wounds appeared on my body, and the bicycle hit the tree.
Giving up something will definitely bring pain to the soul. When I was 9 years old, I was eager for the feeling of being embarrassed. I refused to give up my sense of happiness. I finally realized that losing balance is far more painful than giving up.
Knowing that there was a topic called: What has opened the gap between people in a period of time?
One of the high-sounding answers gave me a very deep impression: the people on the surface who are infinitely beautiful are actually working harder than you.
Those who are superficially beautiful are pretending to be indifferent to loneliness and using self-discipline as a weapon. Similarly, a school graduate, the same starting point, why graduates 20 years after the class meeting, will show a different life status?
Because some people have always been active in their lives, know what they want, and then achieve their goals through self-discipline and hard work. Others were pushed away by life and eventually lost the long-distance running of life.
So, don't let life control you, you must learn to take the initiative to control life. The path of true self-discipline is destined to be the path of few people to go, but only the life of true self-discipline will eventually be beyond the reach of others.