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  A few days ago, I read a speech by a well-known scholar on the Internet. He talked a lot about knowledge points and ways of thinking. Most netizens also rated this program very high.
 
  In the barrage of the show, there are always a few people who have been complaining all the time: "Who does not know this, do you want to talk about it?" "How can I have this conclusion? I also say that I am a thinking cow!" "It's too bad, still It’s better to watch a TV series and waste time."
 
  Of course, there are different opinions. But these people can't wait to read the video. Before they understand the overall logic of the speech, they begin to hold on to individual criticism.
 
  One netizen couldn't stand it anymore. The message said: "80% of netizens think that the content of the speech is very valuable. You spend an hour pointing fingers and fingers. Why don't you listen carefully and then draw conclusions? This is not for others. Respect also makes you look frivolous."
 
  indeed so. They don't seem to be much better than the speakers, but they don't want to hear the words of other people. They are used to negating and refuting strangers.
 
  There are people outside, there are mountains outside the mountains. We often say that "humility makes people progress". Only when you sink your heart and face your own deficiencies, can you grow by making up for these shortcomings.
 
  Not respecting others and not accepting things outside the scope of cognition will naturally make you more and more narrow and lose the opportunity for continuous improvement.
 
  2
 
  Not long ago, the cousin told me a very embarrassing thing.
 
  He has been responsible for reviewing data reports for a number of years in a company, often claiming to be "eyes". One day, colleagues from the client department came to communicate with each other. The cousin glanced at the company's customer maintenance reports sent by the other party, and felt that the summary data was not much different from last month, and they concluded that they did not do much work.
 
  Colleagues told the cousin that although the data growth was not large, the department's maintenance of customers was much more than usual.
 
  The cousin’s fire suddenly came up: “I’m talking about the data, the number of customers has not increased, you still say that the workload is bigger, is it a joke?”
 
  The other party is not willing to show weakness, accusing the cousin of being self-righteous. The two people had a dispute and the company was well known. After the final truth, the cousin consciously lost money and apologized to the colleague at the company's collective meeting.
 
  Originally, in order to make customer data more accurate, the customer department returned to hundreds of customers one by one, deleted some customers who are no longer engaged in the industry, or have bad credit records, and once again deeply docked the quality customers, so this The secondary data did not rise, but the quality of the data has increased significantly.
 
  The cousin said that he always felt that he was better than others and couldn't help but point to others. He did not expect to not only hurt others' self-esteem, but also let him fall into a "self-righteous" reputation.
 
  The slap in the face will only bring embarrassment to yourself and others. Not being arbitrarily arrogant to others is the most basic cultivation in interpersonal relationships.
 
  3
 
  I don't know if you have found that most of the successful people around you are modest and eager to learn, never succumbing to conclusions or blaming others.
 
  When I was working at a former company, I met a R&D manager. He graduated from a prestigious school and had outstanding business skills, but he was extremely humble.
 
  If there is a problem with the project, he will not blame the frontline staff at will, but will find the real reason for the problem and improve together.
 
  He never fears that others will challenge his authority. Every time he develops a research and development plan, he will organize brainstorming and listen to the experimenters who participate in the R&D department to express their opinions and discuss the feasibility of the plan with them.
 
  The manager said: If I have different opinions from the experimenter, I will first consider that I am wrong. I can't get started with it every day, so I can't fully understand the project. If the plan is good or not, we must respect the opinions of specific operators.
 
  This kind of fully listening program is often carried out particularly smoothly. It is not surprising that the projects he hosts can always produce results quickly.
 
  Honoring people, people respect it.
 
  I have heard of a circle theory and it makes sense: as your knowledge circle grows larger, you will also realize that your unknown area outside the circle is also growing.
 
  If you don't think anyone knows much about yourself, it's precisely because you don't know too much about your ignorance. Only when you constantly look at yourself, are not arrogant, and are not complacent, can you maximize your awareness.
 
  The better you are, the more you will know how to be humble and tolerant.
 
  I have always thought about myself, no matter what people are, this is probably the most advanced wisdom in life.